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Oh June…I used to LOVE you!!!

 It’s amazing how one month can have so many reminders of sad things!   June is my birthday month…yes birthday month, as in I appreciate being celebrated all month!   It used to be my anniversary month, but now, it is a month of different kinds of "anniversaries."  

I am trying hard not to let these reminders get me down, but I have to tell you…it ain’t easy!   Coming off of a great, celebratory May, I am now officially “off work” for the months of June & July.   Time for getting things done, seeing people and staying hopeful and positive!   

 Time for my "done" lists, time for "Lisa Days" and just time to de-compress!  
Last year at this time, I was pretty much a mess.   I was preparing for my 34th wedding anniversary, my meeting with the divorce judge, and my 60th birthday.   Many of you who were around me during that time, know that it was not easy.   Gosh, I cringe just thinking about the roller coast of emotions that were surrounding me during those days.   

One thing at a time.   My wedding anniversary is June 9.  This year would have been 35 years.   It still is my anniversary, but now I can officially say, June 9, WAS my wedding anniversary.   It had held an extra special meaning for me as my parents had been married on June 8.   I never envisioned June 9 as a painful day.   However, last year, it was very painful…like take a tranquilizer painful…like cry all day painful.   I waited for a text from Greg…Not a “Happy Anniversary” text, but a “I know this is a tough day” text that never came.   Looking back, I’m not surprised.   Who really knows what to do or say in this case?  

Next, June 18, the court date for our divorce.   Fortunately, we had done the Collaborative Divorce so we didn’t have to go to court…just the judge's chambers.   It was very cut and dry and simple (as divorces go) but to this day, when I remember the words, “Mrs. Houser, are you fully ready to divorce Mr. Houser?”  I cry.   I left that day with such a broken heart…I truly didn’t know how I would ever get over it.   I know how Humpty Dumpty must have felt…broken all to pieces.  

Then, the celebrations for this 60 year old Queen (#grownasswoman) happened!   There was a family dinner, an amazing girls luncheon gathering, and a swim party getaway.   It was a celebration of me and for those few days…I remembered how blessed I was with so many people who love me.  

This was truly the beginning of my newest chapter.  My turning point.   

Fast forward to today, June 2.   I have a month of reminders and I’m a little anxious about it.  I am determined to remember, but not to dwell on these “anniversary” dates.   I have come sooooooo far and even I don’t realize it until I stop and look back on the past year.   It’s only been a year since the divorce was finalized.   A lot has happened in this past year...mostly good.  All good things take time…I’m a work in progress.  

 Today, I want to thank all of you who have been around for me...notes, texts, calls, happy hours, visits, and doing your best to keep me busy!   It's been a year of graces and blessings and that's what I want June to be...my month of reminders about my graces and blessings (a line stolen from Mt. Notre Dame's school song)...not just the "anniversaries."  

 Today, I went to the pool and it was a good feeling to know that summer has begun!!   (Swim dress and all!!!)

 I hearby, re-claim June as my BIRTHDAY MONTH!!   That is all!!!     xoxoxo

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