What is a blog?

A blog is a regularly updated, online journal, typically run by an individual or a small group, written in an informational or conversational style. It can offer advice, opinions, suggestions, and facts, but often it is just the feelings of one individual. Most blogs are interactive, allowing for comments and discussions from the readers.

Nearly two years ago, I started this blog and I have enjoyed sharing my journey with you. The blog started as a way for me to journal my feelings as I navigated the heartbreak of my divorce. I always think I have a lot to say, and I didn’t know if anyone would want to listen but I know that many of you have been kind supporters over many months.

When I started, I had some funny stories to share and some difficult feelings to express. I tried to be honest and upbeat, without hurting anyone along the way. I chose not to get into too many details about others, like Greg or other family members. When I did want to mention someone by name, I asked permission.

I’d love to write every week about Gabriel but I respect his parents’ privacy and when I can’t stand it, I ask permission and usually it is granted!

With the election, I have refrained from making this a political forum. If you know me at all, you know who I am voting for and you know that I have repeatedly said I won’t let the election get in the way of my relationships, although it has caused me to put some on “pause” for a while.

By trying to be true to these guidelines, I have found this to be a lot of work. These “rules” often get in the way of me being me. In fact, there are times when I write my blog and then I delete it and start over because I fear that someone may be offended or hurt. There are some Wednesdays that I just want to say “nevermind.”

Overall, it’s been a great journey, an outlet for me and I thank you for the many comments and words of love and support that you have offered me.

In the past couple of weeks, it seems that some people may have been offended by comments in my blog or by others who posted in the replies. Please know that I would never intentionally hurt you or anyone else with my words. In addition, my “followers” speak from the heart and with no ill will. If there is anything I have learned in counseling is we are responsible for our own feelings. Don’t let others make you feel bad…you can control that! (I know it’s not always easy, but it is true!)

I chose to take down the last blog post from Facebook. It is still available on the website. I have considered ways to make my blogs private, invitation only, or subscription only, but let’s be honest, I’m not a celebrity and I don’t think I’m anything special. I have tossed it around many times and have decided that I probably will not do that again…remove my personal blog post… Not out of spite, not because I am mean, and not because I have hurt someone. I will not remove the post because my blog is my space. It is my online journal, with a window for others to peak through.

With that being said…Wait for it…

I AM GOING TO CONTINUE WRITING THE BLOG! I’m sure some of you may have thought this was going to be my last post. Well, it’s not! (did I just hear a groan?) I’m not sure how long I’ll keep posting but I love to write, I love sharing my feelings with people who love me and again, thank you all for your encouragement.