Thank You Match.com….

Okay, so you know I’ve been stepping back a bit from the online dating but I’m still subscribed so I receive emails from Match.com.    Recently, in one week, I received my potential matches, 2 security notices and a Valentine message.  

The potential matches are hit and miss.  Some of these "matches" are decent in their photos and profiles, until the "body type" and it seems they aren't looking for my type, which happens to be "I'll tell you later!"   Remember, there is no more CURVY?   I'm still pushing Match to change this, but for now, if someone says they are looking for "athletic and toned" I have to pass them by.   I had responded last week to a couple of these matches, telling them I thought we were too far apart from each other to make a connection.   One was from Rockford, Illinois and one was from Memphis, Tennessee.   Yeah, I’m not into long distance relationships or a pen pal.   That being said, both of them, in similar language responded with:

"OK, if you don’t open your heart to someone, regardless of location, you will never find love.   You never know where your next love will come from.   I would be willing to re-locate for my true love.   Please re-consider…"  

Well, isn’t that just beautiful???    These guys are real charmers!   I can't imagine that there aren't all kinds of women in Illinois or Tennessee that would be available for these fellas.  Considering they both had similar messages, I'm figured they could be added to the list of scammers.   Guess what?  I received two separate notes from Match.com that they are investigating “matches” that I may have had contact with.   Both of these men, from out of town, were on that list.  It is highly recommended that I cease communications with them.  Paraphrasing, Match says,

“Fake profiles are an unfortunate reality of online dating.  We will always inform you about suspicious profiles.  Our team is currently investigating a user that has been in contact with you.”   Then they put the name of the scammer in the email (Bradley, Prytt, Samson, to name a few!).   They go on to say, “If you have made contact with Bradley, don't worry too much, provided you have not given them banking details or passwords.  If you have provided those details, please change your passwords and contact your bank immediately. For your security, please be sure to never share such information online. In the interim, we recommend that you: In the interim, we recommend that you cease all contact with this individual and do not disclose any personal or sensitive information.”

Yes, unfortunately, online dating is not without the fakes/scammers/losers...just not sure why most of them are coming my way!!

Don’t worry too much…as long as they don’t have your personal information. YIKES!   I hope that no one is giving that much information online, before meeting someone.  Actually, I can’t imagine giving anyone that information, ever.  But, yes, my friends, I am sure they do...ALL THE TIME!!!  Women are vulnerable creatures, but I’m working to make sure my vulnerability doesn’t get in the way of my empowerment.  

And speaking of empowerment...I did it!  I went to Firebirds Wood-fired Grill, one of my favorite happy hours...I WENT ALONE!!   I WENT ON VALENTINE'S DAY!!   I SAT AT THE BAR!   I DID IT PEOPLE!!!   There is more to this story, and that will come later, but for today, know that your favorite grown ass woman is becoming more empowered and looking forward to her next night out...even if it is alone!      Cheers my friends!!